星期一 多云 5～12℃

逼婚前兆

昨晚按例打电话回家，刚接上问了下饭有没吃，电话那头就直奔主题：“今年春节一定要带回来了！”说着说着闻到些火药味，妈说得最重的一句是：“要是我明年就死了呢！？”爸则在电话边上唠叨没停，说替别人养女儿养了三四年。

以前从来没有过这种直奔主题的情形，多半是家中邻里亲戚有人从中挑唆。农村人爱面子，快奔三的人了，还没结婚，在农村是很丢面子的事情。

现在体会到一些男人面对一些问题时为什么习惯沉默，那是因为不得不沉默。

（2008-12-13 续：果然是有导火线的，今天打电话给妹，得知是去年结婚的堂弟刚刚得了个儿子。今晚打电话回家，已经气消了。）

The Miser
from http://classics.mit.edu/Aesop/fab.1.1.html#351

A Miser sold all that he had and bought a lump of gold, which he buried in a hole in the ground by the side of an old wall and went to look at daily.

One of his workmen observed his frequent visits to the spot and decided to watch his movements. He soon discovered the secret of the hidden treasure, and digging down, came to the lump of gold, and stole it.

The Miser, on his next visit, found the hole empty and began to tear his hair and to make loud lamentations. A neighbor, seeing him overcome with grief and learning the cause, said, "Pray do not grieve so; but go and take a stone, and place it in the hole, and fancy that the gold is still lying there. It will do you quite the same service; for when the gold was there, you had it not, as you did not make the slightest use of it."

1、越在意，就越有可能失去。
2、一块金子埋在地里的时候，它就像一块石头一样，毫无价值。